A few years ago Anastasia Winterhalt and Anthony McCarthy’s marriage was at a breaking point. “I didn’t think I could possibly fix what was broken,” says Winterhalt. “We had no communication, I was ready to divorce my husband.” Winterhalt thought all was lost, that’s when her mother suggested she try Retrouvaille.
Lack of communication, resentment, fighting and living separate lives while married are just some of the common factors responsible for the breakdown of many marriages. The reasons are as varied as the couples that take part.
Retrouvaille has Catholic roots but the program is for everyone, regardless of religious affiliation, wanting a stronger marriage. It is based on an intensive weekend-long experience followed by 6 follow up sessions. The main emphasis of the program is on communication and rebuilding relationships.
McCarthy says Retrouvaille gave him a new language. “I was never much of a talker, especially when it came to the hard stuff. The program was intense but it got to the root of things,” he explains. “It’s given me the confidence to express my emotions with my wife and the rest of my family.”
Winterhalt & McCarthy are now trying to help other couples find their way back to a caring, passionate & loving marriage, as they have. They are the community coordinators for Retrouvaille Saskatchewan. The next Retrouvaille Weekend will be held on April 28, 2017 with post sessions from 1 – 5pm. May 6th, 13th, 27th, June 3rd, 10th and 17th.
Anthony & Anastasia are open to sharing their story and explaining more about the Retrouvaille process.
Anastasia (306) 716-6982 or awinterhalt [at] hotmail.com
Regina’s Newest Catholic Program designed for Dating, Engaged and Newly married couples. For more information contact Linda Mueller bmueller [at] sasktel.net 306-533-8355 or Rose Flaman-Trehas rtrehas [at] sasktel.net 306-530-5544
The Lord calls us in many ways, and different people answer different calls. In Genesis 2:18 The Lord God said, "It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper as his partner." and in verse 24, he says, "Therefore a man leaves his father and mother and clings to his wife, and they become one flesh."
Marriage is officially counted among the seven sacraments. A sacrament is an outward sign of our commitment to God and for those who choose marriage, there is a responsibility that comes with it- a lifetime commitment is made to our partner and a lifetime commitment to spread God's presence to the world through the sacrament of marriage. In a sacramental marriage the couple have both the mission and the power to make Jesus present to each other, to their children, and anyone whom they touch as a couple.
To maintain a happy marriage work together to accomplish your goals as a couple. Living out your commitment is not always easy but by the grace of God all things are possible. If we remember to:
have open and honest communication
treat each other as we would like to be treated
be gentle with each other
don't try to change the other person
compromise - try to arrive at a mutual solution and remember we don't always get our own way
the question is not so much who is right, but what is right for the marriage.
Commitment is the key word in a marriage. If couples are really committed to each other they will handle the small problems before they get out of hand and rejoice in the good times knowing that their union is blessed by God.
Keeping this in mind we know St. Paul was right when he said to the Corinthians, Love is patient, love is kind love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way it is not irritable or resentful it does not rejoice in wrongdoing but rejoices in the truth, It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends. (1 Cor. 13:4-7)